Sunday, June 7, 2015

The Joys of Rejection

I love listening to podcasts because it it an easy way to learn and gain more knowledge. I listen while cleaning the house, driving to work and during my warm up before I work out. 

I also love to read blogs and have a list of favorites in Safari that I check 3-5 times per week. 

It's always interesting to me how themes come up in what I'm listening to/reading and how fitting they are to what is going on with my life. 

Lately, the theme of accepting and expecting rejection has been recurring. Instead of worrying about and fearing rejection, the authors have been encouraging me (and you) to seek out, embrace and enjoy rejection! Crazy right?

The idea speaks to me because many of us fear rejection. We go through life afraid to do things, afraid to ask for things because we are afraid of the dreaded word, "No."

But what if you set out with the goal of getting a no? What if you set out to get 5 "No"s in a week? You would be happy when someone said no, right? Because it meant you were closer to your goal, you would be happy about that rejection!

But think about if someone said, "Yes!". Well, that is pretty darn good, too! It's a win-win!

Here's an example. Many of you know I've started selling Tupperware. I love their products for food storage and I love the convenience their products offer for transporting my foods around. With this new venture, I've embraced a "Go for No" attitude! Each week, I have set a goal to get two "No"s. I could get those in the following ways. 

  • Ask a friend to host a party
  • Ask a group if they would like to use Tupperware for a fundraiser
  • Ask someone if they would to like start selling Tupperware
  • Ask someone if they would like to order an item from the sale flier

Hey, here's a perfect "Go for No!" moment! Would you, reader, like to look at my online sales page

On a more personal level, you could use this in a variety of ways!

 Maybe you could ask someone you admire for some one-on-one brain picking time by inviting them to coffee.

Maybe you have been thinking about applying to the local college to get a degree. Go for it! What's the worst that could happen?

Maybe you can sing, but are nervous about singing in public. Ask the music director at church if you could sing a special. If he/she says no, then no worries, you met your goal. But if they say yes! Look at the window of opportunity you have opened for yourself!

Personal and professional growth is all about getting over the fear of rejection. It IS going to happen. Once you accept that and embrace it, there is nowhere to go but up! If someone says, "No", then it's ok because I am meeting my goal. If someone says, "Yes" then WOOO HOOO!

I am also using this in other areas as well such as my personal nutrition coaching business and CrossFit Murray. When you embrace and expect people to reject you, only good things can happen! Sure, at first the sting is still there, but the pain is numbed. Growing pains, right?

Here are some current resources and inspirations to get you ready for the "No." 

I haven't read this yet, but it's on my list. I've listened to the author give interviews and it has piqued my curiosity. Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang

"Go for No"  by Richard Fenton

Stay Strong Y'all!

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  1. I always have a philosophy when asking for things, "The worst they can say is no, and then I'm no worse off than I am now!" - Learning how to except no's makes us stronger and with each "no" we're that much closer to a yes! thanks for linking up!

    1. Thank you for hosting Nicole! I love that philosophy! I've surprised myself this year with all the yes's I've gotten just because I was brave enough to ask!

  2. Unless we try it, we will never know it, isn't it? I am all for trying. But I have to say that it took me ages to overcome fear of rejection. Wanted to be loved at all costs drains a lot of energy.

    1. I still take everything personally, but it's something I'm working on! Thanks for reading!